Best Laid Plans…(I need your help!)

So, my last post was all full of enthusiasm about my goals for 2012 and how I was going to get stuff done and my life would be structured and all would be well in the world…

 

But like all best laid plans, this has kind of gone to pot.

 

In my (somewhat limited) defence, this wasn’t helped by a throat infection and a course of antibiotics (started with a nice fever which left me in bed whimpering pathetically!).

 

So that wiped out a week, and then I’ve been trying to catch up on my work in the day job and all that stuff.  Also, I’ve been trying to take things a little easier as I really don’t like being ill and so I must make an effort to look after myself!

 

But anyway – I’m still typing up my goals so that I can share them all with you and so you can hold me accountable.  I’d put all these tasks into my organiser, and then things just haven’t happened.  Partially due to the illness, but also partially due to a lack of enthusiasm on my part.

 

Now, this seems silly.  I want success, of course….so why am I procrastinating and self-sabotaging?  Plus, I’m the one that set all of these things up!  Surely I can’t be rebelling against myself, that would seem….well, stupid!

 

*sigh*

 

There are now all these things that I was going to have done / started by now that haven’t happened.

 

For example (and yes, these are in the goals report that I’m trying to write!), I wanted to:

 

  • Go for a 20-30 minute walk at least 5 times a week.  I’d even considered using my lunch break at work for this..and have I done it?  No.  Well, twice, but that’s not exactly 5 times per week, is it.

 

  • Eat more fruit – I was being good and bringing some in as part of my lunch at work….but then that’s slipped as well.  Silly, because I love fruit, so it’s not a negative task!

 

  • Do one blog post a fortnight and create a new video every fortnight (overlapping so I’d be doing one thing each week).  I’ve got as far as writing in my diary which I should be doing (i.e. is it a blog post week or a video week), but I haven’t actually created the content.

 

  • Plan out and update my Aweber mailing lists so that I’ve got a much better follow-up sequence in place (this will require some additional content in some cases).

 

I have done some of them, or have started some of them, but then there are others that have just slipped by the wayside.  The main problem for me I think is the apparent lack of enthusiasm that I have for my success and my future. 

 

Again, this is ridiculous – of course I want success.

 

So what am I going to do to get myself out of my own pit of despair?

 

Drink more tea?

 

(For me, that’s a given!).

 

But really, what am I going to do?

 

Ask my friends for help of course!

 

So…please could you help me?  I need a gentle prod occasionally, or just a bit of contact so that I’m reminded that people notice if I don’t do things.  If I let myself down, that’s bad, but if I let my friends down that’s even worse.  So if I know you’re watching me & supporting me (can I emphasise the importance on *supporting*) then I’m a lot more likely to stay somewhere near the tracks…

 

Of course, life will throw up the occasional issue as it does; it wouldn’t be any fun otherwise.  But I would just like to know that I have your support in making my 2012 amazing (and hopefully I’ll be able to help to make yours great as well).

 

Let me know what’s happening with you: are you sticking to your 2012 plans?  Have you fallen by the wayside?

 

I’m off to the Land That Time Forgot to visit my family, so I apologise in advance if there’s a delay in me replying to your comment – I hardly get any phone reception at my parents so I can’t get on the internet on my phone to reply.

 

Normal service will resume on Monday though as I’ll be back in the Land of the Living!

 

Take care, and stay focused….

 

Nikki




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  1. Mandy Allen
    Mandy Allen says:

    God, I’m a real procrastinator, Nikki, so can empathise with all of this. You haven’t set yourself unachievably goals but I do think you’re giving yourself a hard time when you have been ill and so some of these things may have been achieved had that not happened. Be a bit more gentle with yourself. Seriously, beating yourself up doesn’t help much. I believe you will step into a routine that will be manageable for you and once you find that it will be much easier to achieve your goals. For example, you said you could walk in your lunch hour but have only done it twice. Where did you go? Half an hour out a a one hour lunch is quite a bit. Is this practical or are you already setting yourself up to fail because actually it isn’t manageable? On the other hand is there somewhere locally you can walk to that you can see something/do something that will encourage you to do it. So within a 15 minute radius of work is there a loca art gallery (if you like art) that you could drop into? Is there a particular bakers you liek to buy bread from and can use that as an excuse to pop out? Always find a reward for your efforts, it makes them much easier to achieve.

    I’m sure you’ll get on board with Barry’s video challenge so that’s those sorted for four weeks.

    As for self sabotaging, it’s hard to motivate yourself to success when you already have a regular income. At the end of the day the regular job always comes first as that’s what pays the bills. I’m right there with you on that one. Anyway, I’ve waffled on long enough. Maybe the Marketing Challenges Group should have a weekly call out and anyone who has achieved their tasks for that week could have some sort of reward (which you’d have to providde yourself, but any reward is still a reward!)

    Enjoy the journey.

    Mandy

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    Nikki Reply:

    Hey Mandy,

    I’m glad I’m not alone with the procrastination! You should see the state of my house at the moment – it’s a lovely flat but I’ve managed to turn it into a tramp’s paradise – all because I spend my time procrastinating instead of tidying!

    It’s something that pervades my entire life…which does annoy me occasionally, but clearly not enough to do much about it.

    The walking at lunchtime thing – I work on a university campus, and my job involves me staring at my computer screen all day. So for my health, I think I need to do something that gets me away from the screen for a break. Plus a bit of fresh air would do me some good, hence me thinking that my lunch break would be the ideal time to go for a walk. So while there isn’t anything interesting nearby, I could pick a route off the campus and along a footpath that would end up taking me in a loop so that I end up back at the office. That way I wouldn’t have to think “oh, where shall I go” – it’ll just be a routine wander.

    I don’t mind eating at my desk (I take a packed lunch most days), so I can always do that after my walk & before I get back to staring at my screen. But you’re right – I need a reason to leave the office, so while I wouldn’t be walking to anything, if I have my little route all planned then I just have to take that first step out of the office and then I’m on my way.

    Funnily enough I don’t think I’ll have trouble with motivation to leave the office once it’s sunny!

    Yes, I need to go and re-visit Barry’s video challenge – I had a quick look the other day, but I haven’t given it proper thought, so that’ll be a great way to get my motivation going again.

    You’re also right about the day job – mine has been particularly busy lately (is it ever quiet though?!) and so by the time I get home, the last thing I want to do is turn my laptop on and be looking at a screen again. So I think in my schedule I’ll make sure I always have one night a week where I do absolutely nothing…that way I might get a chance to recharge my batteries a little and not feel like I’m chasing my tail all the time.

    As you say – all part of the journey! And what is all of this if not lessons that I can look back on when I’m sunning myself on a hot beach with a cocktail in my hand….

    Speak soon,

    Nikki

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  2. Adrienne
    Adrienne says:

    Hey Nikki,

    I’m sorry you’ve been sick, that’s never any fun at all. Hope you’re feeling much better now.

    Okay, can I let you have it? Here’s the bottom line. You don’t want it bad enough. Yep, you heard me. Success is something you say you want but your actions speak for themselves.

    I’m sorry, I hope you’ll take this as positive criticism instead of the opposite because I want to see you move forward with this.

    If you really want to have success, you’ll do the work. You’ll be excited about it and enthusiastic. You’ll write out your goals and you’ll do them. Is it easy? No! Is it hard to fit what you need to do into your work day? Yes! Will you put aside the time to accomplish what needs to be done? Yes! If you want it bad enough so saying it and doing it are two different things.

    Don’t be a talker, be a doer! That is, if you want this bad enough. So there’s my piece of advice and please know that it’s meant with the best of intentions.

    Okay, enjoy your weekend and hope you’re spending it with family. We do all need a break from time to time.

    ~Adrienne
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    Nikki Reply:

    Hey Adrienne,

    Yes thank you, a lot better than I was, although it always seems to take longer than I think to get over these things.

    Ah, you’re going for the tough love approach! Harsh words, but fair, and I know you mean them in the kindest way possible.

    Sometimes it’s easy to get lost in the multitude of things that you need to do, and I think that’s where I am now. But I know I’ll make my way out of it all, and I have the support (and arse-kicking!) from my friends both online and off.

    Yes, I did have a weekend away from everything – I went to visit my parents & my brother (it was my mum’s birthday) so that was a nice break from the usual demands of my life.

    What’s the old saying – sometimes a change is as good as a rest?

    Speak soon,

    Nikki

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  3. Dee Ann Rice
    Dee Ann Rice says:

    Nikki,

    Life has its way of getting in the way.

    I think that it is especially bad with internet marketing because other people do not understand why you want to sit at a computer for hours on end. For them that is very anti social. The problem that is the only way you will ever get anything done online.

    May be you should make a goal with your family to have them let you spend a certain amount of time on the computer each day or week.

    It is extra hard when you are sick also. I was sick around Christmas and did not get much done.

    Set goals that are realistic and you can actually accomplish also. Then build on those. When I set goals that are to big for me to accomplish I always fail. Consider your circumstances when you set your goals.

    I would be more than willing to give you a nudge every now and then. Not a problem. I will send you a PM.

    Good luck and hang in there. You will make it.

    Dee Ann
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    Nikki Reply:

    Hey Dee Ann,

    Yes, life does get in the way sometimes, but then I wouldn’t really want to change that – a little spontaneity is a necessary requirement in my opinion. But when it stops you from getting things done then it can just be frustrating. Oh well!

    I’m lucky in that at the moment I live by myself, so I don’t have anyone resenting me for spending time on my laptop in the evenings. However, as I explained in my reply to Mandy above, my job has me in front of a computer all day, so by the time I get home, I really want to give my eyes a rest & leave the laptop alone for a while.

    But time waits for no man (and certainly not for me either), so I just have to try to get everything done – sure, there will be times when it all goes wrong, or times when I fall behind, but then I’ll be able to look back & see what I’ve managed to achieve. And that has to be a positive thing!

    Thanks for commenting Dee Ann, and for the PM as well.

    Nikki

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  4. Jeremy Ruggles
    Jeremy Ruggles says:

    Hi Nikki,

    I know how it is to procrastinate, even when it is something you are truly passionate about. I have spent years starting things online and never finishing them only to see poor results at best and then be discouraged because of my poor results.

    Sometimes, when you have big plans, concrete goals, and great enthusiasm, all it takes is one unexpected event to throw you off and make it difficult to get back on track.

    You sure made some demanding goals for yourself. If you start to feel overwhelmed, I would suggest giving yourself a break and re-adjusting your daily goals. 9for example giving yourself 2 days to make a new video instead of one). There is nothing wrong with that and you can work your way up to your target goals.

    You are doing great… Keep it up!

    ~Jeremy
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