I’m Like The Ringleader; I Call The Shots

I have been guilty of procrastination since the New Year.  Yes, I work full time, and therefore don’t necessarily have as much time as others to dedicate to this at present.  But is that really true?  Or am I just a poor judge of efficient time management?

Gary’s 20 traits of Winners vs Losers post highlighted that to me – go and have a look and rate yourself honestly against the 20 points there.  It might just give you the wake up call you need.

One thing I have been struggling with recently involves me losing sight of some of my own personal values.  I have allowed myself to be concerned with other people’s opinions of me, which is dangerous territory for me to tread upon.  The reason I have been considering seeking the approval of others is because I momentarily lost my faith in myself.  Why do I tell you this?  Because it may happen to you.  This blog is documenting my journey to success, and on every journey there will be pitfalls or traps or diversions.  Despite myself, I am only human (although some of my skills are out of this world 😉 ).

So how have I got myself out of this state?  By being proactive.  Firstly, I have recognised my detrimental mindset, and so I can work on changing that.  I have also made it a priority to re-read The Guru’s Dream, as it was after reading that in the first place that I was so fired up and ready to take on the internet marketing world.  The question begs to be asked though: Is the internet marketing world ready for me?

I am not afraid of working hard to get what I want, although I much prefer to work smart rather than hard.  But I always get what I want when I am passionate about it.

This brings me to another issue.

For those of you that can see there is a lot more to me than meets the eye, thank you for appreciating my sense of humour and allowing me to share it with you.  I’m glad you enjoy it; it certainly brightens up my day.

To those of you that have ignored the constructive comments I have contributed to others blogs, and that have chosen only to focus on the more superficial aspects of my online presence, this is my warning to you.  I have a great deal of fight and passion in me, and I will not be underestimated.

I am in this to succeed, and I am in this to win.  So if you don’t want to join me on that path then I suggest you move out of the way.

Message to success: I am coming.  And I will conquer you.

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31 replies
  1. Garry Parkes
    Garry Parkes says:

    Hi Nikki,

    Just popping by to see what the purple minx is up to. Never know quite what to expect with you, LOL.

    It’s a very honest and open post you put up there. I think the more you let people know about you the greater bond and trust you build up with your visitors. If you reveal your imperfections and warts and all (not saying you have warts, though a lot of witches do apparently!) then they know you are a real person and not just some person wanting to market to them.

    Just got your email, btw. Article is exactly the sort of thing that will be useful to many.

    Garry Parkes


  2. Gary SIMPSON
    Gary SIMPSON says:


    Loved it! This is EXACTLY the powerful woman stuff that we want to see on the internet.

    Loved this comment too…

    “Despite myself, I am only human (although some of my skills are out of this world)”

    Oh, I am SURE they absolutely are! I can only imagine.

    But, getting back to your statemen – POWERFUL stance. I like it. And when the Gazz-Man likes something he LIKES it!

    Looking forward to reading the artcle of the raven-haired, ruby-lipped purply one! Yeah baby!

    Gazz-Man from Gazz-Land


  3. Guy
    Guy says:

    Hey Nikki,

    Great post, to be able to expose your true feelings on the blogosphere and share your momentary loss of faith in yourself is bravery in itself.
    Hey, I’m sure we all go through the same roller coaster rides and swinging mood shifts. I guess it’s just part of human nature.
    But it’s great to see that you have the back of some great bloggers out there including the Garrys (that’s Garry and Gary, of course) the Tommys, the Paulls and the rest of us on the AJ’s 500 list.
    So keep up the good fight, stay passionate and go forth… and conquer!




    Nikki Reply:

    Hi all,

    Thanks for the very positive responses – it’a always nice to have appreciation from you!

    Garry – that’s a very fair point that you made, people don’t know what to expect from me, and I like keeping people on their toes! And FYI, I don’t have any warts 🙂

    Gaz-Man – I am a Bengal tiger – hear me ROOOOAAAARRR!! As for the other point, well, I just couldn’t help myself…am I selling myself well?!

    Tommy – what can I say. That wasn’t the most soul-baring I’ve done, but I thought I’d test the water slightly first. That, and I wanted to make it clear that I’m not just some superficial person messing around. Although as you can certainly appreciate, I do have my moments!

    Guy, thanks for popping over, nice to see you here. I’m on a mission now, so there are going to be some changes going on here. Nothing compared to the changes over on Gary’s (Simpson) blog, but hey, I don’t have a super-secret-sleuth working with me! But my game will be stepping up pretty soon…and then world domination will be mine!!

    In the meantime, I’m off to put the kettle on…cup of tea, anyone?



  4. Alan Taylor
    Alan Taylor says:

    Hi Nikki,

    What a great post,

    It makes a change to read something positive. I think that all have those moments when we feel a bit low. Then things start to slide.

    But as you said we should all pick ourselves up and become re-inspired to succeed.

    All the best.



  5. Dean Holland
    Dean Holland says:

    Oh Nikki …

    Ohhhh Nikki ….

    Guess who’s in the purple palace ???

    Yeeeaahhh Its ya boy Deano and girl am I glad I dropped by !!

    Whaoooo .. Sock it to em sis !

    I gotta admit, still from new year Im having to kick myself to get going !

    I dont feel like im working smart right now, I keep looking at the end of the night at what I have done and its ermmm .. Not a lot !

    Well you just put me to shame and mad me wake my almost lazt ass up !!

    For that I salute you !

    Lovin the work !



  6. [Q]
    [Q] says:

    But I always get what I want when I am passionate about it.

    Good one. It applies to all of us.
    You could even shorten it to
    “We always get what we are passionate about”


  7. Vince
    Vince says:

    Hello Nikki, Vince here,

    I am not sure if we have met,

    Please read this Huge Special Announcement – and post a link to my blog.

    I don’t want anyone to miss out on this.

    I have worked out an incredible gift for you – and all of Alex’s members – read on…

    I now have the resale rights to CamStudio witch is now Camtasia, This new recoded Internet Marketing Version is bug free and works just as good as Camtasia witch cost 300.00.

    Soon you will see a new sign up form and video come up showing you this new software and I am giving it to all of Alex’s members for FREE.

    Why am I doing this…

    I am doing this for two reasons, First I want to help everyone out their and show them I really have some great value on my blog and second I feel that 90% of the members cannot afford Camtasia so this will be a great way to build a new list of all the members.

    I also noticed you have a video on how to use this software witch I will post on my blog.
    Check out my post and you will see this is a new recoded up to date version with all bugs removed and special features added like fash out put videos in firefox and now you can redirect to a URL after the video has finished.

    On top of this I also package together a 70 plus page ebook on how to get more traffic to your website or blog as a bonus. This is a must read. Some really great strategies and techniques you can use.

    Now this is only going to be up for a short time for all the members to get it. Then it will be taken down forever as I am selling it on the internet.

    So Please Scream this from the roof tops because anyone that gets this new software
    will now be able to teach fellow students anything they know though video and bring more traffic to their blog or website.

    This complete video software comes with a step by step pDF file that shows you exactly how to install and run the software. Once installed you will love it.


    The Give-away pages are all set and all I have to do is flick the switch. The video will be up soon with a sign up form. Check back soon. Thanks Vince


  8. Becky Carter
    Becky Carter says:

    Hi Nikki,

    I can completely understand what you are saying. Sometimes we all need to stand up and shout, ‘I’m still here and I’m gunna do it!!’. I’ve been through the lost stage as I’m sure most of us have been, but it’s a great feeling to come out the other side and see things clearly again.
    I think you are doing brilliantly, much better than me. I have to admit finding the interacting part slightly challanging at times, which I suppose is just a confidence thing but I am working on it.

    Anyway, well done on your positive thinking and action!

    Bye for now.


  9. Dave Pumfrey
    Dave Pumfrey says:

    Hi Nikki,

    Just wanted to come over and thank you personally for the excellent article you wrote in the latest issue of Garry Parkes ‘Profit Pulling Project’ Newsletter.

    I didn’t realise you could use the HTML tags to make your comments stand out more. Thanks for the tip.

    I too have been taking it slowly so far this year. Lost my momentum abit. I think it’s OK to cruise along for a little while, just as long as you don’t take your foot entirely off the pedal.

    Sometimes a break is required to re-organise your thoughts and your priorities. Not such the Gazz-Man would agree – but we are all making progress and that’s what counts.

    There’s still plenty of time for your world domination!

    To your success,



  10. Debbie
    Debbie says:

    Hi Nikki,

    I have to apologize that this is my first visit to your place. I came by originally to say Well Done on your article in the newsletter. I never think about using any html in posts, except for links. Hmmmm … something to consider.

    Anyway, that’s why I originally came by, but then I read your post and it really resonated with me. I’ve been feeling in a funk and just not working my plan effectively. I think re-reading the Guru’s Dream is a great idea. Thanks for the kick in the butt!



    Nikki Reply:


    I wasn’t sure about putting this post up – I had written it late last Friday on a bit of a mission, and I wasn’t sure how it would be received. However, I believe in being open and honest (some might say I’m a little too open & honest sometimes), and so I thought I’d share. Judging by your responses, it’s something that has been useful to many.

    Alan, I’m glad you found it positive and helpful in that respect. It was quite therapeutic getting it all out (no Gaz-Man, not like that!).

    Deano!!! Long time no see bro! Although talking of seeing, I now know what you look like rather than having to hazard a guess from the pic in Guru’s Dream! Peeps, if you haven’t seen Dean’s video yet then pop over to his blog… Purple Palace, I like that! Another one to add to my list of names I think…

    Q, you are of course right. At the time of writing I was feeling somewhat defensive, so it came out as more of an attack / warning than a sensible considered sentence.

    Vince, welcome to the Lair of Temptation! It may be your first but I’m pretty sure it won’t be your last visit…

    Hi Becky, thanks for popping over here. It’s kind of you to say you think I’m doing brilliantly, but I haven’t even got half the things you’ve got going on at your blog – I still haven’t even done my PPP! I will get there though, no-one said world domination was an overnight thing! You always have really helpful posts on your blog, so I know whenever I encounter a problem that your blog is a good place to start looking for answers.

    Tommy – of course, not a problem. The Purple Minxy Witch is always pleased to have your company over here. I’m relaxing in the Lair myself at the moment, I can see why it’s so appealing!

    Hi Dave – thank you! It’s the first time that I’ve done something like that, so I was really pleased that Garry and Gary liked it and felt it worthy of inclusion. I’ll be doing more as soon as I’ve decided what to write about, so if there’s anything you like to be covered, then please let me and Garry (Parkes) know (as if I can’t do it, Garry will know who can!).
    I do agree with you that a break is necessary to re-organise your thoughts – particularly as a lot of us are working full time in the real world as well as creating our own online journeys – we have to remember that we are only human, and we will need time off!! (Apart from the Gaz-Man, who appears to be super-human and super-disciplined on SO many levels!). By the way, have you got your free copy of the Gaz-Man’s Action Planner? REALLY useful!

    Debbie, welcome also to you! Thank you for your kind words about my article, I wasn’t sure whether anyone would find it useful so to have this kind of feedback is very gratifying for me. You can see how I’m using the HTML coding here in this ‘response to comments’ post – that way, people can more easily identify whether I have responded to them or not. I’m glad that you also found my post useful – and it’s good to know I’m not the only one that’s been feeling that way!

    Thank you to all of you for coming over to the Lair and commenting – it’s much appreciated.

    Now I’m off to bed with a cup of tea and my copy of the Profit Pulling Project newsletter…if you haven’t got yours yet then go over to http://www.garryparkes.com and get it now!! It’s free! And it’s brilliant!



  11. Gary SIMPSON
    Gary SIMPSON says:


    Well done with your article in the PPP#3. It was VERY good.


    “Apart from the Gaz-Man, who appears to be super-human and super-disciplined on SO many levels!”

    There is a reason for that and anyone can do it and I can teach them. I have an e-book on it – surprise, surprise, huh? But thank you for saying that.



  12. Denis Caron
    Denis Caron says:

    Hi Nikki:

    Self doubt is a b**ch, eh? Me too. I’ve been sitting back a little, probably at some crossroads here, just trying to decide my place and path. I’m now in the middle of a revamp. I started a post at the blog, but held off, now it looks as though it’s going to be two or three parts.

    Then came the “Simpson Tsunami” and the newsletter, so if I put up a post now, no one would see it. I’ll hang and strategize…Jeez, I didn’t come here to talk about me…

    So great job on the newsletter. You’ll see the impact soon as everyone starts to “bold up” their names and underline stuff. Perhaps even a block quote if one feels adventurous!

    I believe that those of us who have varied and great skills, but not necessarily pertaining to internet marketing, are having the most diffculty in finding our own “path”. How to make those passions or life experiences relevent to our online venture. Ah, that is the question…

    I’ve shot you off a little PM, for your reading pleasure. Couldn’t print it here. Be careful where you open it. Ha-ha.



  13. Nikki
    Nikki says:

    Me again!

    Gaz-Man, it was meant both as an observation and a compliment! Am I to assume you aren’t talking about your Action Planner? Come on, spill the beans!

    Denis, thank you for the email, I thought it was great! Got some vivid images in my head now as well – not so sure I should thank you for those!

    Now, you said:

    I believe that those of us who have varied and great skills, but not necessarily pertaining to internet marketing, are having the most difficulty in finding our own “path”. How to make those passions or life experiences relevant to our online venture. Ah, that is the question…

    Indeed it is the question. I think it’s one quite a few of us are having a little trouble with.

    Tommy, are you here for your usual session? Glad you’ve popped over to the Lair, and thanks for the compliment!

    I need to take the Meat King out now, but I shall probably be back later…thanks for popping over to the Lair everyone!!

    Mistress Nix


  14. Nigel Yip
    Nigel Yip says:

    Hey Nikki,

    How are you and hope you are having a wonderful time off with family and catching up on some sleep – lol

    Great post, really great post, and it’s wonderful that you are sharing your insights and how you are feeling as well – and I certainly know what you mean about losing the faith issue –

    I’ve lost it quite a few times already during this course but armed with Gary’s motivational planner (x3) under one arm, an internet RPG under the other, along with 3 different coachings course on my back and one in my backpack along with unlimited ammunition in my wizardry satchel along with an invisible cloak – I’m finally getting back on track again.

    Oh and not to forget all the wonderful support that every student has been offering as well.

    Anyway, keep up the great work and here a toast to your conquering success – Cheers!!!


  15. Colin
    Colin says:

    Hi Nikki

    My first visit to your site so I had to include you on my Blogroll.

    Great article in the Newsletter, you learn something every day which is what we all should be doing. As you can see I am already one of your students and an admirer even on my first visit!

    Guess when I’m going through a purple patch I will just log on to Nikki.

    Roll on your next article….By the way, given you a mention in my latest post.



  16. Garry Parkes
    Garry Parkes says:

    Hi Nikki,

    Well a Star is born, LOL.

    But I guess you and (many others) already knew you were a star. !!

    I saw the comments from Linda [Q], over on her site I think, saying that she said she was surprised you were still working a day job. I think by the end of this year I don’t think you will be and I hope to be there right by your side doing many JV’s together as I mentioned before in emails.

    Thanks very much for the kind words you mentioned about me above. It is very much appreciated but I’d like to say on your site the pleasure was all mine. Your article was very well received and deservedly so as it was well written, well presented and informational to boot so it made my job very easy.

    Have you noticed a lot more people are using formatting in their comments all over the blogs. I wonder who that is down to  In the end that’s the greatest measure of success – if people found it useful – and it passes that test with flying colours.



  17. Gary SIMPSON
    Gary SIMPSON says:


    Heh… heh… darls – Just look at what YOU have done! Everyone is doing this formatting now. So cool!

    I saw you had this ability in you right from the start. Linda Caroll is also a very good judge of a person’s capability and I agree with what she said. You are a star on the rise. Work HARD and it will be yours. That is the key coz you certainly have the talent now it will only be up to the discipline.

    And Denis – the “Simpson Tsunami” – you also have quite a way with words. Man, you dunno how close to the damn truth that comment is – LOL!

    Um, Nix, no it wasn’t that little p*ssant ACTION Planner – helpful though as it is to everyone who USES it. I got much better stuff than that on-board the Gazz-man Jumbo Jet. Just waiting for the right time to take off…



  18. Paull Hamilton
    Paull Hamilton says:

    Hi Nikki,

    Thanks for popping over the other day. I have finally edited the video of the trip, I´m sorry to tell you though that it´s the “pg” version =O( only a bit of bad language, but I think the dolphins will make up for that.

    All the best

    “Master Bates”


    Nikki Reply:

    Hey peeps!

    Nigel, yes thanks, having a nicely chilled time with the family despite the late nights (making the most of their internet access!). Might try to get to bed at a sensible hour tonight though, I’m cooking Sunday lunch tomorrow so need to get up early!

    I’m liking the sound of a toast to our (note our) success – can I drink tea to that, or should it be alcohol? Not sure there’s any here at the parents…hmm.

    Colin, welcome to my cyber-home! Although on second thoughts, my cyber home seems to be somewhere between the Gaz-Man’s Temple and Garry Parkes’ site! Thank you for the feedback on my article, it’s much appreciated and I’m glad you found it useful.

    Garry – speak of the devil and he singes your sideburns! Ooh, a star – I think I can cope with that!! Yes, I was most flattered by Linda’s comment, but all my ‘success’ so far is down to a few people here that have helped me and accepted me – without you, I wouldn’t be at this point. Don’t worry, I always remember those that help me.

    The only problem now is thinking up some other things to write about – as soon as I’ve got some ideas I’ll email you so you can tell me whether I’m on the right track. And yes, I have noticed people are formatting their comments now – worldwide influence in my first article! Imagine the possibilities…

    Gaz-Man – you have completely hit the nail on the head with this bit:

    “That is the key coz you certainly have the talent now it will only be up to the discipline.”

    That’s what I’m afraid of! How many people fail because of themselves?!

    However, that WILL NOT be me! This time next year, my life will have completely transformed. I want you to hold me to that.

    Hi Paull, thanks for popping over. I’ll go have a look at your video in a moment. Had to laugh at your sign-off name – I will of course be returning the favour over on your blog!!


    Off for a cup of tea now, anyone want one while I’ve got the kettle on?

    The Purple Minxy Witch


  19. Gary SIMPSON
    Gary SIMPSON says:

    Oh Nix,

    Don’t take this the wrong way but the line is just too damn good. And I really can’t help myself.

    You said:

    “I want you to hold me to that.”


    If I said you had a beautiful body, would you hold it aganst me?

    Gazz-Man – the Grand-Poo-Pah of Dalai Lemur Tails
    Temple (of Doom, I think!)


  20. Gary SIMPSON
    Gary SIMPSON says:

    Hello Purple TEMPTress,

    I have just occasioned by the Portal of the Fu-Man-Chu one and read what the Minxelator has dubbed thee – “His Holiness.” Hmm. Very pontifical, to say the least.

    Speaking of dinners et al…

    Now HIGHLY desirous one…

    The Gazz-Man and “the Artist” – formerly known as “Q” are cooking a lovely meal. You will be invited to dinner, of course. But the chairs around the table will be limited. So, let me know if you can’t make it and I might invite a lesser light – maybe Bill Clinton.

    (HH) Gary or maybe I’ll just go by HHG.


  21. Dave Pumfrey
    Dave Pumfrey says:

    Hi Nikki,

    Can you tell me how you added the search feature to your side-bar in your blog.

    Please also add me to your blogroll – your already added to mine.

    To your success,


    P.S. The effort IS worth the prize – as I’m finally starting to see my list building. I found a pretty cool way to promote myself in the signature box of blog comments. I’m going to write a post about it on my blog to help the other F500 members.


  22. Jeff Sargent
    Jeff Sargent says:

    Hey Nikki,

    Sorry but I don’t believe I’ve been to your blog before. With these colors I’m sure I’d remember. In the beginning of Alex’ coaching I started visiting different blogs and leaving comments but slowly ventured away and without even realizing it I was only visiting the same ones over and over again.

    (BTW, I like your blog colors.)

    That’s a big mistake on my part as there are so many great blogs out there with tons of valuable information.

    Anyway, I just came from Garry Parke’s blog and saw a comment by you. Plus I have seen your name pretty much on all the blogs that I do visit so I figured I would come over and introduce myself.

    I have been having similar problems the last month or so as you stated in this post.

    I wouldn’t say I’ve been guilty of procrastination but certainly I haven’t been doing what I should be doing.

    I really have a hard time focusing. I do have a plan and I start off each day OK but somewhere along the line I seem to loose my way. In fact, I think I’ll head back over to my blog and make a post about how I’ve lost focus. Maybe if I write about it I’ll wake up and do something about it.

    I don’t want to take up any more of your time but I did want to say hello. I am going to make a promise right here on your blog that I’m going to try and visit more student’s blogs on a regular basis.

    Thanks for listening.

    Jeff Sargent



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